As a marriage counsellor I have specialised in working with couples for 20 years. For the most part I have been helping partners reconnect their intimacy after varying periods of frustration and pain.
Statistics show that sometimes a couple will wait up to six years before asking for help. Depending on how much good-will is left, the relationship has a chance to heal the hurt and reconnect in a loving way.
Wanting to expand on how I may continue help couples, I now offer Family Dispute Resolution as a trained practitioner registered with the Attorney General's Department. (See listing on Family Dispute Resolution Register.)
The personal non-judgemental approach that is important with counselling is even more so with Family Mediation. Often emotions are running high for the couple who are separating, sometimes after a long period of living together. When children are involved, there is even more emotional investment in the outcome of how the children will be cared for after following separation.
It is therefore important that both parties are heard by an impartial facilitator where the needs of the children are considered foremost in reaching agreement for Parenting Plans.
I take a child focused approach to mediation and if appropriate a Child Consultant can be appointed to offer a voice to children with parent's consent.
This is an important option for parents to consider as it is often the children who suffer most in family breakup. Even though the parents themselves are suffering pain, this is often so intense that children's needs can be overlooked.
North Shore Family Mediation holds the philosophy that each person's needs warrant respect and due consideration, especially those of children and possibly other relatives such as grandparents.
If there is any chance of reconciliation, then I recommend participating in marriage counselling prior to proceeding with mediaiton.
During marriage counselling sessions the focus will be on what changes may need to be implemented for a couple to consider reconcilation.
Various therapeutic modalities are employed including Imago Relationship therapy, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Mindfulness, Voice Dialogue, Emotional Freedom Techniques, Provocative Energy Techniques and Archetypal Therapy.